March at 2:08 pm #45666
I wrote an article today that answers this vital question. This article appears on Medium.com today.
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It’s a sad state of affairs that many people think unconditional LOVE has no place in business.
Unconditional LOVE is the backbone of all true success.
Let me clarify my terms.
What is unconditional LOVE?
There is no greater power in Heaven or on Earth than pure, unconditional love. The nature of the God force, the unseen intelligence in all things, which causes the material world and is the center of both the spiritual and physical plane, is best described as pure, unconditional LOVE. — Wayne Dyer
First, it is not codependent attachment.
I don’t mean that Hollywood “you complete me nonsense. Of course, that has no place in business.
Second, it is not infatuation.
Unconditional LOVE has nothing to do with perceiving only the attractive. It is not about being blind to the whole picture, or seeing only what you want to see.
Unconditional LOVE sees clearly the strengths and weaknesses inherent in the situation.
And third, unconditional LOVE is not lust.
Sexual gratification should play no part in business relationships.
The desire to dominate or crush or win at any price is not a part of any fulfilling success plan.
How many times have we heard of people who have clawed their way to the top, stepping on everyone in their way, sowing discord in their wake, who find their way to the top, and then say to themselves, “Is this all there is?”
Unconditional LOVE is the creative source of all life and therefore, all fulfilling success.
Unconditional LOVE is expansive. It sees infinite possibilities. It creates infinite resources. It knows no lack or scarcity.
Unconditional LOVE is collaborative and inclusive.
Unconditional LOVE unifies, and therefore strengthens.
Most business is based on the competition model.
The competition model says, “I have to win at any cost.”
The competition model says, “For me to win, everyone else has to lose.”
A competitive business model justifies greed, violence, deception, betrayal…all the bad things that no one wants to happen to them, yet may seem justified in order to “win”.
Competition is perhaps the most subtle form of self-sabotage there is.
Most people don’t believe a win/win world is possible. In fact, most people don’t even consider it at all.
I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become a reality… I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word. — Martin Luther King
Win/win doesn’t show up on their playing field as an option.
In this modern world of almost unbelievable technological advances,
a world where things are possible today that were only a dream a few years ago,
why do we still fail to understand the creative potential of life?
A win/win world is entirely possible.
In fact, it is right here, right now, waiting for us to cease it, claim it, live and thrive in it!
The creative source of all life (unconditional LOVE) is completely able to provide win/win solutions for everyone all the time.
Please, pause, and let this truth into your awareness.
Win/win solutions are always available.
We just have to push for them.
We can’t be satisfied to win and allow someone else to lose.
We have to stay in conversation until that win/win option arises.
We have to refuse to stop before we get to win/win.
There is always that third thing (not your way, not my way, the way of win/win) hovering nearby.
And the best part is that the win/win way is better for everyone involved.
Can you imagine a world where there are no losers?
Can you imagine the happiness, the joy, the safety, the wellbeing of everyone living in a win/win world?
Yes, unconditional LOVE has a central place in every business.
Unconditional LOVE is the ultimate solution to every single problem, every single time.
I know that’s a big statement…but think about it.
Unconditional LOVE, our creative source, created and is creating solar systems and galaxies…could it be possible that it can’t solve our little problems here on this little spec of dust flying through the universe?
OF COURSE NOT!
When we scale to the level of creating galaxies and star systems and black holes and asteroid belts the problems faced by humans on Earth are NOTHING!
But here’s the catch: WE are the people who have to invite unconditional LOVE into our thoughts, into the realm of what we perceive is possible.
Unconditional LOVE’s greatest gift to us is the freedom to choose win/lose.
Unconditional LOVE will never force its gifts on you.
Unconditional LOVE is here…knocking at your door…offering you peace and joy and a win/win world.
But you get to choose: yes or no.
Which way will you go?
If you like competition.
If you like losing.
If you like making sure other people lose, unconditional LOVE will not stop you.
There will be consequences that are the natural result of laws of cause and effect.
But unconditional LOVE loves you no matter what choices you make.
No judgment there, right?
Unconditional means NO conditions. You are free to choose.
So choose wisely.
Here’s 4 reasons unconditional LOVE is an empowering and wise business strategy.
Reason #1: Living in unconditional LOVE opens your perceptual field to the widest possible lens.
In a world of truly infinite possibilities, why would you want to settle for a smaller list of options?
Like blinders on a horse, false beliefs about self, life and other people limit our vision of what is possible.
We have to rip those blinders off ourselves…this is the responsibility of each individual: to choose a wider lens on life.
In business so many more opportunities are available than we typically perceive.
It is up to you to widen the field of options for your business and/or career.
Reason #2: Unconditional LOVE doesn’t judge. Judgments cloud your perception of what is really going on.
Judgment is always limiting.
It is interesting how we are always choosing limits.
We say we want more, more, more.
But the more we judge, the less we see available, the more limited we become.
In business, judgments can cause you to limit your customer base, and those synchronistic opportunities that come from left field.
Don’t let yourself be the one holding you back!
Reason #3: Unconditional LOVE finds opportunities inside of challenging circumstances.
Life is always throwing difficult circumstances our way.
Successful business people have learned the art of finding new possibilities within situations that are painful and/or difficult.
Use your limitations to break through into new possibilities….Photo by Rafael Pol on Unsplash
The mindset that asks,
“What are the options this challenge could be pointing me toward?” or
“How can I take advantage of this situation to move to the next level?” or
“What is life trying to teach me?”
is truly empowered.
Reason #4: Unconditional LOVE fosters confidence and trust in life. Unconditional LOVE is an aspect of flow.
When you say “yes” to life by cultivating unconditional LOVE this lack of resistance opens you to the experience of inner confidence.
In every activity, whether business or personal, undertaken in the spirit of confidence and trust, there is enhanced flow.
Flow indicates lack of resistance.
Judgments stop the flow.
Flow amplifies momentum and acceleration.
Flow maximizes ease.
So what do you really want for your business or your career?
Do you want struggle, striving, effort, win/lose?
Or would you prefer flow, ease, momentum, win/win?
The choice is yours.
It’s all a matter of perception.
Create a win/win world today.
Kristin van Tilburg is the Creator of The BurnOut Fix, and Founder of the Strategic Success Mindset Community. Check out the community here: Kristin van Tilburg
March at 3:08 pm #45712
Thank you so much for sharing this.
I believe that unconditional love is a life choice – it governs everything we say and everything we do, and can sometimes be challenging to achieve! We are all connected – we are all one – so if we can love ourselves, then we can love other people. That is not to say that it is easy!!
Thank you again, Kristin
with all good wishes
Free Spirits Coach
March at 5:01 pm #45798
I agree with unconditional love and win/win as a better way than anything else in business strategy. Its easier to do when you are Number 1 in your own business than working as a corporate slave. Hence so many people want to start their own thing.
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March at 7:43 pm #45922
Thank you for this post. I went to the site and read your impressive article about unconditional love. It is so beautifully written and posted, which makes it all the more powerful. God is unconditional love, and unconditional love is God. I believe we can achieve this by being aware and by asking His help when the going gets a little rough. Thank you for reminding us that we can have win/wins in this life.
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